Sunday 29 November 2015


World Aids Day is a sad day...

 

...But we must have hope in the future

It’s important to keep raising awareness.

It’s important to challenge stigma and prejudice.

It’s important to try and prevent new transmissions.

 
We must also look forward in that new developments in treatments and testing will encourage more optimism for people living with HIV and more support for those who are still acquiring the virus every day.
I may be one of the 103,700 people currently living with HIV in the UK today but I consider myself to be a very fortunate person.There's not really anything in life I long for, or any way my health has deteriorated to such an extent that I cannot live a ’normal’ life,  but still on every World Aids Day I feel sad.
I don’t ever want to take for granted any of the wonderful people who are doing so much to challenge the sadness because they are much needed, much admired and much loved, but it’s still a sad day. It will always be sad day.


It’s sad that we have lost so many people and continue to lose people unnecessarily.

It’s sad that even though we are all working hard to make sure life carries on; it cannot carry on without restrictions.

It’s sad that every year we have to talk about a rise in new infections.

It’s sad that so many people around the world cannot get medicine.

It’s sad that so many who do have access to meds find it tough to cope with the side effects.

It’s sad because we still view  HIV+ people as if they are ‘plagued’ or morally bankrupt in some way.

It’s sad that we are so worried about ‘coming out’ as HIV positive for fear of rejection and judgement.

It’s sad that lives are changed forever because of a stupid virus.

It’s sad because you just cannot forget about this virus once it gets inside you.

It’s sad that we feel we have let down our loved ones because we contracted HIV.

It’s sad because it dominates so much of your life and makes you unable to understand your body in a rational way.

It’s sad because it messes with your mind and makes you think that everything that happens has relevance to your status.

It’s sad that it can turn you into a self-harming, self-loathing and destructive person.

It’s sad that you can never truly get back to the person you were before you became positive.

It’s sad that the word positive has such a negative connotation.

It’s sad that there are still so many of us who do not feel able to speak up about our lives and how they are affected.

It’s sad that those of us who do speak up feel so often defined by our status either by ourselves or by others.

It’s sad because we still only really talk about this in public one day a year.

It’s sad that I feel sad, but I can still talk about it and I can still raise awareness. 
 
It's important to remember World Aids Day and it's important to remember why.
 
 
 
Photograph above courtesy of Precinct Seager Galvez-Soto


 
 

Saturday 11 April 2015


Making YOUR  Mind Up

Use your right to vote PLEASE!


Of course many of us in the LGBT community are as confused and divided as the rest  of the country when it comes to deciding who to vote for in this year’s general election on May 7th.
However  the choice not to vote at all really isn’t one that we should let ourselves fall into the trap of making .  
Are we really so disillusioned by politics that we can’t hope for anything better or do we just not care at all and are fatalistic about the future to let whatever could happen, happen?
I’m not going to tell you who to vote for but I am pleading with you to vote. Then you can hold your elected leaders to account. If you don’t they just won’t hear our voices and will assume that everything is fine or that we just don’t care, or worse still, don’t exist.
Many people will say that LGBT issues are not the most important thing on their agenda but I have to ask why not? All issues affect us but we are the ones who must prioritize the lives and future wellbeing of lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people in our communities.
We’ve asked the politicians to vote for us over the last few years on issues such as the equal age of consent and equal marriage and now we must judge them on their track record and more importantly what they are pledging to do to support our communities over the next five years.
It has been warned by some that the biggest problem we face is LGBT apathy now many of the equalities battles have appeared to have been won but we often forget that these battles have took decades to win and some people would still prefer our rights to be ignored.
Most LGBT people don’t need anyone else to tell them how difficult life can be. Those of us who are young, old, unemployed, living with a serious health condition, disabled, BME or trans are even more troubled by the society we are living in and how it too often treats us.
The Equality Act 2010 made LGBT equality a priority for healthcare service providers, but since then there have been cuts to HIV prevention, sexual health work, mental health services, LGBT youth work, support for LGBT older people, ignorance of trans people’s needs and contempt for LGBT asylum seekers. We should all be demanding that whoever we vote for  will ensure that LGBT equality at home extends to fighting for and supporting LGBT people in other countries too.

The plight of homelessness among LGBT youth is particularly worrying with studies indicating that around 30% of homeless youth are LGBT.
 
Schools still remain frightening places for LGBT teachers and pupils. Many politicians have talked the talk when it comes to Sex and Relationship Education for primary and secondary school children but we need more than just words when our young people are affected by homophobic, biphobic, and transphobic bullying and all teachers in all schools need to support LGBT youth.
 
LGBT Hate Crime should also be treated more seriously and just as much as lesbians, gay men and bisexuals are right to expect equality we should expect the same for all our trans brothers and sisters.
 
The party leaders are all doing the rounds at the moment, even talking to the LGBT media because they really, really want our vote but who deserves it most?
 
Who do you really trust to deliver on behalf of lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans people?
We don’t have long to make our minds up and there’s no point expecting the mainstream media to cover LGBT issues very much, if at all when covering these elections so take a look for yourself, read Diva, Attitude, Gay Times, Pink News, Gay Star News etc.  and come to your own conclusions… but please do make a decision, our futures depend on all of us voting!
Here are some of the main parties LGBT links to help us find out more: